At Bedtime Network, we know that it can be incredibly hard if not impossible to maintain bedtime as a sacred time.  That’s why we developed the Bedtime Network, the first website dedicated to helping you make your bedtime and sleep experience better.  Featuring “7 nights and 7 different coaches,” each of our experts specialises in the various “lifestyles” of bedtime.

We establish bedtime as a longer than imagined period of the day.  Specifically, we see it beginning from the moment you return from work until your head hits the pillow.  Most folks perceive bedtime as the time at which they literally crawl under their covers, but we know that in true practice, that’s just not long enough! The true art of bedtime or secret to sleep lies in what you do before you get into bed.

In some ways, the technology craze has made our lifestyle that much harder; easier to stay in touch, yes; but in many other ways, much harder when it comes to turning off. We frequently discuss these “social” trends with our coaches who specialise in every aspect of bedtime.  From children to adults, we cover everything involved with bedtime: from fitness to sex and relationships, nutrition, style, décor and of course, dreaming.

While it used to be “the dinner hour,” providing families with a time of day to come together, these days, with both parents working, it can be impossible for that time to be the “family time.”  So, with that in mind, we’ve designed a collection of bedtime rituals that just might help you give the ones you love their best bedtime ever; and at the same time, help you settle down and sink into the land of Nod.  Feel free to mix and match.  The important point is to create a lasting bedtime ritual that brings you pleasure and peace.

The Art of the Bedtime Ritual from the Bedtime Network Coaches:

Bedtime Network’s “NYC Sleep Doctor,” Janet Kennedy and author of our series, “How to Raise a Good Sleeper” says that the key to a good night’s sleep is in keeping your child from becoming overtired.  Follow your baby’s schedule. The key to a well-rested child is making sure he or she sleeps often, which you can control, versus long, which you cannot. Just remember, good sleepers aren’t born, they’re raised.”

Bedtime Network’s Nutritionist Gayle Reichler, MS, RD, CDN, recommends cuddling up under a blanket with a warm drink as an enormously satisfying bedtime snack.  “When selecting evening beverages, you want to be careful and opt for something that is not high in caffeine (which is a stimulant and can cause insomnia and anxiety).”

Bedtime Network’s Fitness Guru Elisabeth Halfpapp has also developed a unique video sequence of bedtime stretches, exclusive for Bedtime Network known as “Night Moves.” Spending just ten minutes each evening with these exercises will allow you to release the tension often held in your neck and throughout your body.  These simple “Night Moves,” provide a practical, safe relaxation technique for everyone that can be done anywhere at anytime.

Bedtime Network’s Relationship expert, therapist Nyiri Grigorian says, “Ever notice that your worst arguments with your kids or spouse happen at bedtime?  She recommends you, “allow some time to review and look at how you feel; even make some notes.  Then, tuck your feelings in for the night.  Issues that may begin a fight at night are better solved in the light of day.”

From Bedtime Network’s Sex Therapist Miriam Baker:  At bedtime, ask your partner, “What smells good to him/her?” even if it’s baked cookies.”  And, she also addresses, “What’s Blocking Your Sex Life?  Is it anger, anxiety, perhaps fear.  Whatever it is, she recommends that you examine what is standing in the way of you and greater sexual satisfaction at bedtime adding that, “sex at bedtime may actually help you sleep.”

Bedtime Network’s Interior Designer Randy Florke says, “turn off your technology.” “Don’t put a desk in your bedroom. If space is really an issue and you have to have a desk for your laptop in your bedroom, put it away at night so that you don’t see it if you happen to get up to go the bathroom (which just might cause your mind to start focusing on work at 3am!) Keep your bedroom clean and clear of outside influences. Above all, focus on you and your loved one!”

WHOLEMEAL PANCAKES (Serves 12)

Ingredients:
240g wholemeal flour
1 tsp salt
3 tsp baking powder
2 tsp sugar
2 eggs, room temperature
350ml buttermilk
80ml grapeseed oil (reserve 1 tbsp for pan)

Instructions:
1. Sift dry ingredients together in a bowl. In another bowl, beat eggs and buttermilk together.
2. Combine egg mixture with dry ingredients and mix briefly until just combined.
3. Add oil and stir until the mixture is spongy and uniform.
4. Heat pan over medium heat and add 1 tbsp grapeseed oil.
5. Spoon small amounts of the mixture into the pan and let each pancake cook until the top begins to bubble.
6. Cook for 2 to 3 minutes more after bubbles form, then flip and cook for 2 more minutes.
7. Serve with fresh seasonal fruit and maple syrup.

FRENCH TOAST (Serves 4)

Ingredients:
2 medium eggs
240ml skimmed milk
¼ tsp vanilla extract
1 tsp honey
Ground cinnamon to taste
Ground cardamom to taste
1 baguette, thinly sliced on an angle
1 tsp vegetable oil
1 tsp golden caster sugar
Pure maple syrup to taste

Instructions:
1. In a bowl, mix the eggs, milk, vanilla, honey, cinnamon, and cardamom.
2. Place baguette slices in the mix and let sit for 3 minutes. Turn slices over and let sit for another 3 minutes.
3. Heat a pan over medium-high heat and add vegetable oil.
4. Place the dipped baguette slices into the pan and cook both sides for approximately 2 minutes each.
5. Sprinkle with confectioner’s sugar and serve with maple syrup.

APPLE CREPES (Makes 12)

Ingredients:
For the filling:
1 tbsp butter
4 apples, peeled, cored, and sliced
2 tbsp brown sugar
2 tbsp raisins, optional
2 tbsp walnuts, optional
Pinch of ground cinnamon
Pinch of ground nutmeg
For the crepes:
240ml milk
2 eggs
60g flour
Pinch of ground cinnamon
Pinch of ground nutmeg
1 tsp vegetable oil
3 apples
1 tsp golden caster sugar

Instructions:
1. Begin the crepes: Mix milk, eggs, flour, and spices; set aside for 20 minutes.
2. Meanwhile, begin preparing the filling; heat butter in a pan over medium-high heat.
3. Add apples, sugar, raisins, walnuts, and spices; simmer and stir occasionally to keep tender. Set aside.
4. Return to the crepes, and heat vegetable oil in a pan over medium heat.
5. With a ladle, pour batter into centre of the pan, swirling to create a thick layer.
6. Cook until top is dry then flip the crepe, cooking for another 15 seconds. Slide crepe onto a plate and keep warm while you make the rest.
7. Place filling in the centre of each crepe; fold and sprinkle with confectioner’s sugar.
8. Garnish crepes with thinly sliced apple.

We’ve taken the Wellness Week Pledge! Have you?

Alexander House Hotel and Utopia Spa, Turners Hill

Enjoy 2 x 25 minute treatments each, choosing from back, neck and shoulder massage, power facial, express manicure, express pedicure or outer glow body scrub. Then indulge in a two course spa lunch with your lovely after exploring the spa facilities

Special Price: £199 for two people.

Dolphin House, London

Enjoy an exfoliation ritual in the Hammam where your bodies are doused with warm water and covered in Savon Noir made from crushed olives, olive oil and eucalyptus. This is followed by an application of Ghassoul, rich in detoxifying minerals, infused with natural shea butter, and splashed with rose petals. Some sweet dates to share and a glass of champagne are included.

Special Price: £45 per person.  Perfect for 2 people.

Lausanne Palace & Spa, Switzerland

Relax for the weekend on the shores of the lake Geneva at The Lausanne Palace & Spa with your sweetie. Benefit from a night in a luxurious double room including breakfast for two. Enjoy free access to the fitness, pool, sauna and hammam. Choose between an Energising or Relaxing Massage for 50 minutes.

Special Price: CHF 710 for two guests in a double room per night.

Masajes Bonjour, Madrid

Save 35% on a Romantic Couples Massage, enjoy a 50 minute aromatherapy massage for two in a special couples treatment room, block out the hustle and bustle of the city centre  with relaxing candles and incense.

Special Price: 65 € for two people.

Obsession Salon & Spa, Branston

Saying ‘I love you’, showing we adore someone – there are times when only luxurious pampering shows how much you care and value that someone special. Choose any combination of sumptuous treatments to truly spoil, indulge and cherish that very special person in your life.

Special Price: only £65 for two treatments of your choice.

OSKIA Boutique Spa, London

The spa houses three beautiful, understated and quintessentially British treatment rooms. Expert therapists, work therapeutically on the face, body and mind to leave you feeling and looking truly beautiful.

Choose from 3 exclusive Valentine’s Packages to get you ready tor your sweetheart come Valentine’s Day:

Save £50 on the Glow on the Go facial, bikini or leg wax, Silver manicure or pedicure package.
Special Price: £100

Save over £40 on the Signature facial plus a free Bronze manicure or eye brow wax package.
Special Price: £95

Save over £40 on the Gold manicure and free Bronze pedicure combo
Special Price: £55

The Sanctuary Spa, London

The perfect treat for yourself or someone special this Valentine’s Day…Free glass of pink Prosecco and cupcake when you book a Spa Day in February!

Price varies depending on package booked.

Sofitel London St James

Start with a blissful aromatherapy massage, using a blend of rose and ylang ylang, followed by a Fleur de Bali Facial, which will leave your skin radiant and moisturised. Complete this romantic journey with a rose Kir Royal and rose macaroons.

Special Price: £160 for two people.

Buy SpaFinder Gift Vouchers for your Valentine and treat them to the ultimate romantic pampering at the spa of their choice >>

Oskia Valentine Gift Box

This multi-award-winning British skincare brand, inspired by nature, is the perfect gift to buy the special lady in your life. This indulgent gift set contains Oskia’s famous Rose de Mai Massage Candle and mouthwatering multi-award-winning Renaissance Mask. Packed with pink British rose petals and wrapped in beautiful pink ribbon – it looks real pretty too!

Why not book a bespoke treatment at the luxurious OSKIA Boutique Spa in London to go with your gift box.

The Sanctuary Spa Nourishing Oil Duo

A brand new product from a brand loved by women the world over. You can’t go wrong with this online exclusive gift set of cleansing oil and best-selling Youth Boosting Therapist’s Secret Facial Oil  – all wrapped up pretty in pink.

A visit to The Sanctuary Spa, Covent Garden, for a treatment, some bubbly and a cupcake, would be the cherry on the cupcake for your loved up lovely.

SpaFinder Gift Voucher

Perhaps the best gift for your lovely lady is a SpaFinder Gift Voucher. Treat her to a day of spa that will leave her rejuvenated, refreshed and ready for whatever fabulous date plans the night has to bring. Select your SpaFinder Gift Voucher value here.

Aveda – For the Man in Your Life

Treat your fella to the purest hair care, skin care or body care with Aveda’s gentle plant based products.

Then book him in to one of four Robin James Lifestyle Salon & Spa, embodying Aveda’s holistic spa philosophy.

Gentleman’s Tonic Shaving Gift Set

Make your man doubly happy with an elegant gift set that contains a perfect combination of their best selling shaving products – a great way to experience Gentlemen’s Tonic.

After you have got your guy oozing understated self confidence, surprise him with a  luxury lifestyle and grooming service at a Gentleman’s Tonic location – the modern man’s barbershop of choice.

SpaFinder Gift Voucher

You can always treat that special guy to a fabulous SpaFinder Gift Voucher, which he can use to indulge in a men’s facial or sports massage to gear up for the rest of your Valentine’s Day. Select your SpaFinder Gift Voucher value here.

If in doubt, grab a SpaFinder Gift Voucher to use at one of our Top Ten Romantic Spas or at your favourite day spa for a side-by-side couples massage to relax, connect and celebrate your love!

If you’re flying solo this year, the 2011 Reader’s Choice Awards’ impressive list of the best spas for “Going Solo” is all you need – what better way to spend Valentine’s Day than by making a date of your own with the spa?

Check out the spas voted Best for Going Solo:

Deerfield Spa (East Stroudsburg, PA)

Grail Springs Health & Wellness Spa (Bancroft, Ontario, Canada)

“Explore the love that is within you, live it and love it. When you do, others will find it. The inner radiance of self-love is a treasure. It radiates onto others and opens their hearts.” – Danielle & Ken

Red Mountain Resort (Ivins, UT)

Cal-A-Vie Health Spa (Vista, CA)

Green Mountain at Fox Run (Ludlow, VT)

Hilton Head Health (Hilton Head Island, South Carolina)

Miraval (Tucson, AZ)

New Life Hiking Spa (Killington, VT)

Rancho La Puerta (Tecate, Mexico)

Ste. Anne’s Family of Spas (Grafton, Ontario, Canada)

Here’s some more great spas across Europe that cater to the solo spa-goer.

1. Clear Space, Clear Mind

“Create a peaceful and loving environment,” Miriam says. “Sometimes our homes (especially city flats) are anything but peaceful. Make sure candles and scented oils accent a warm, tidy environment.”

Be mindful and present by taking five minutes or so to clear your mind chatter and to prepare to work on your partner, Edan advises. “Remember, the mind is very powerful, so focusing on providing your partner with relaxation is key to helping them relax, let go and feel good,” he explains.

2. Use Simple Essentials Found in the Home

Be sure you have all the items you’ll need around you to give an uninterrupted massage.

Some of Miriam’s suggestions include:

• Oil (almond or grape seed, even that olive oil you have in the kitchen) is preferable to lotion, which tends to absorb too quickly.
• Have a towel handy to pick up any spills.
• Use a pillow under the ankles and one for neck and face when he/she is prone (face-down) and prop the pillow under the knees when he/she is supine (face-up).
• Make sure your fingernails are not too long. And if you just got a perfect manicure, use your knuckles, fists, and forearms. You can still apply the right strokes with almost any part of your hand.

3. Intuitively Indulge the Senses

“Remember that the massage is all about your partner and what they want or need,” Edan says. “Just because you like an elbow in your back doesn’t mean they do. Practice using your intuition to figure out what they like and what their body/muscles need. If you can’t figure it out while being mindful, then just ask!”

On the same note, create an environment to invigorate the senses, Miriam suggests.

“Pick out some music you both love,” she says. “Use essential oils; they stimulate the brain’s limbic system, our most animalistic sweet spot of emotional memory.”

Choose your scent:

• Sweet orange and neroli will brighten the mood
• Ylang ylang and rose will heighten sensuality
• Lavender is always a great road to relaxation

“Just a couple drops will do,” Miriam advises. “Why not complete your massage with a champagne toast and favourite dessert?” We love that idea!

4. Pace Yourself

Slow and steady wins the race: “Don’t forget to start slow – loving touch can be very nourishing to the spirit as well as the body,” Miriam says. “Your partner deserves to be nurtured with your full attention. The nervous system loves slow, repetitive movements and constant pressure.”

Things to remember:

• Apply the oil onto your hands and then his/her body.
• Don’t rush; think in three’s — three strokes here…keep your hands on his/her body…three strokes there, and repeat.
• Move to the music. Slowly.

Edan agrees that you can’t go wrong by keeping things slow and simple. “Use the techniques that you know and do well – the ones that don’t get you tired, and work slower, much slower,” he says. “Hold compressions for longer than you normally would – this allows the muscles with the chance to truly let go.

Giving a massage shouldn’t be tiring. Here are some tips on how to massage correctly – and effortlessly.

• Use your body (fingers, arms, hands, etc.) and its weight properly (utilising proper body mechanics) so you don’t cause yourself discomfort or pain. If you do find yourself getting tired, adjust your body in a way that will allow you to let go and relax.
• Drop your shoulders, lift your head up and make sure to use your body weight when applying the pressure with your hands.
• Always lean in from your core/centre, rather than using your arm and finger muscles.

5. Relax & Have Fun

“Remember to let go a bit and have fun,” Edan says. “Use the time to meditate as you let go of your thoughts and allow yourself to be guided by your intuition. Rather than thinking about what to do next, just feel. Trust yourself and be confident.”

“Enjoy the time you’ve set aside to experience each other, and if you end up stumbling the whole way, you can always book a private couples massage therapy lesson, or throw in the towel altogether and let the professionals do the work,” Miriam says. “Either way, there will be appreciation that you tried. And what could be better than honouring your partner’s whole body, mind and spirit with the gift of your time, respect and love?”

And, if you really want to pamper your loved one, start the night of spa romance at home by drawing a homemade chocolate bath to luxuriate in before the massage!

SpaFinder’s DIY Chocolate Milk Bath Recipe

240ml bubble bath
120ml milk
60g chopped dark chocolate

- Bring milk to a simmer, take off the heat and stir in chocolate bits, leave until melted. Let cool and mix the mixture into the bubble bath liquid. Use 100ml of the mixture for each bath. This amount can last about four days.

Ananda in the Himalayas (New Delhi, India)

El Monte Sagrado Living Resort and Spa (Taos, NM)

Como Shambhala Estate (Bali, Indonesia)

Fivelements, Puri Ahimsa (Bali, Indonesia)

Golden Door (San Marcos, CA)

Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health (Stockbridge, MA)

Mii amo, a Destination Spa at Enchantment (Sedona, AZ)

Miraval Resort & Spa (Tucson, AZ)

Rancho La Puerta (Tecate, Mexico)

Ten Thousand Waves (Santa Fe, NM)

Patyka

Patyka, a certified organic product line that includes skincare, body care and perfume, was launched in France in 2002. The team behind the brand travelled the world and used years of research to create Patyka out of natural potions and plant decoctions of family, botanical or apothecary origin and rare perfumes. The brand believes that every woman breathes an unexpected fragrance, expresses a dash of impertinence and embodies an elegant, rebellious spirit.

Nickel

Nickel, a men’s only spa originally started in New York, now with spas in London and Paris, has a line of men’s grooming and skincare products. The line carries moisturiser, facial scrub, cleansers, eye care, bath, body and shaving products. The line is high performance, easy to use and gives instant results.

Pangea Organics

Pangea Organics are formulated with organic ingredients to amplify hydration and support cellular regeneration by feeding the skin with antioxidant nutrients, EFA-rich oils and nourishing plant botanicals. The “Always Beneficial, Never Artificial” Pangea is handcrafted, organic, fair trade and cruelty free. The brand is partnered with Women for Women International and helps to provide women survivors of war, civil strife and other conflicts with tools and resources to move from crisis and poverty to stability and self-sufficiency; five percent of the profits from Pangea Organics go to Women for Women International – available from VitaminsUk.com.

Priti NYC

Priti NYC provides luxury and eco-friendly nail varnish that stemmed from its founder Kim D’Amato’s conscious effort to switch to organic food and products while pregnant. Priti’s mission is to support organic farmers and to decrease the amount of chemicals poisoning the earth – one manicure at a time.  The polishes are completely nontoxic and come in a great array of colours – available from CultBeauty.co.uk.

Tallulah Jane

Tallulah Jane presents beautiful fragrances that embrace the centuries-old craft Bourbon perfumeries with a bold, modern sensibility. The scents are made from organic and wild-crafted oils mixed together in certified organic grape alcohol or jojoba and then hand poured in small batches. The brand prides itself on its commitment to making products ethically and sustainable – available from BeingContent.com.

CHI Spa Recipes:

Fire Element Juice:
Fire, the element of vision, indulgence and natural leaders, is paired with spicy and bitter foods. This juice features the savoury, intense flavour of thyme, which was believed to be a source of courage in ancient times, CHI Spa says.

1 small honeydew melon, juiced
5 apples, juiced
3 sprigs of thyme, leaves removed

Pick off the thyme leaves and blend into juice mixture.

Metal Element Smoothie:

The element of beauty and protection, those exhibiting strong metal elements hold themselves and others in the highest regard, living with high moral values and reason. The menu focuses on tastes of sour and spicy. Raspberries are rich in antioxidants and are also among the fruits containing the highest fibre content. They are also a good source of vitamin C.

120g vanilla yogurt
1 tbsp honey
190g raspberries
150g blueberries

Place all ingredients in a blender. Blend until smooth.

Water Element Juice:

The Water element, one of motivation and willpower, is matched with foods that are bitter and salty. Celery juice contains sources of Riboflavin, vitamin B6, calcium and magnesium to keep the mind fresh to have the sense to keep your willpower. Because there is a natural ingredient in commercial apple juice that prevents the homemade apple juice from oxidising, both are needed, Executive Chef Wayne Harris says. In addition, the homemade apple juice adds a touch of tartness.

7 celery stalks, juiced
5 apples, juiced
180ml apple juice

Mix juices and enjoy!

Kohler Waters Spa Recipes:

Flax Seed Energy:
240ml orange juice
1 tbsp flax seeds
150g strawberries
75g cup blueberries
1 banana

Pomegranate Raspberry:
240ml skim milk
230g yogurt
2 tbsp pomegranate syrup
1 tsp honey
150g mango
75g raspberries
150g strawberries

For each recipe, place all ingredients in a blender. Blend until smooth.